Divorce dating effects children
Where the child may have tried to get parents back, the adolescent may try to get back at parents.Where the child felt grief, the adolescence has a grievance.After battling in family court for 10 years and watching what it has done to my daughter.
This means observing the three R's required to restore a child's trust in security, familiarity, and dependency - Routines, Rituals, and Reassurance.
Somewhat different responses to this painful turn of events occur if the boy or girl is still in childhood or has entered adolescence.
Basically, divorce tends to intensify the child's dependence and it tends to accelerate the adolescent's independence; it often elicits a more regressive response in the child and a more aggressive response in the adolescent. The child's world is a dependent one, closely connected to parents who are favored companions, heavily reliant on parental care, with family the major locus of one's social life.
Thus parents establish household and visitation Routines so the child knows what to expect.
They allow the child to create Rituals to feel more in control of her life.