Online dating disappointed
While signing up for a dating app or site can feel like walking into an all-you-can-eat buffet at five star hotel, it doesn’t take long before you realize you’re still eating that Mc Donald’s down the street. Yes, there is a lot of disappointment built into online dating.Since it's peak online dating season, there's a good chance you're exploring new sites or apps or spending a little more time on the ones you've been on for a while. But, unfortunately, there’s a lot of disappointment built into any kind of dating.There’s no longer, as the economist George Akerlof showed in his study of how the used-car market used to work, an asymmetry in available information.Nowadays, we can research most things and sometimes know as much as, if not more, than the seller.Reality check: You’re reaching out more, so receiving fewer responses is natural. But seeing more and more matches enter your inbox that are not right for you can also take a toll on your heart.
So it’s easy to feel more down on yourself than you would other-wise. A large user base on a site can also mean being contacted by all the wrong people.Some sites are full of unsolicited dick pics; some sites batter you with barely any conversation; and some sites are just exhausting after so. I think the reason we get so annoyed with online dating in particular is that it takes a lot more work that dating any other way, you know?Checking back in, browsing profiles, messaging, setting up dates…I seemed to attract awkward dudes who had mastered the art of “talking” via chat but just couldn’t seem to make it work with their vocal chords. They ghost on you and you think, not for the first time: I’m definitely deleting Tinder.It was simultaneously frustrating and sad, ‘cause I felt bad for them. You meet up, they look like their pic, they’re funny, there’s some spark. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?